Evolving Through Bullshit: Getting to a Better Place Despite Obstacles

Evolving Through Bullshit is a collection of experiences that led me to make many changes in my life and after making those changes I felt compelled to help others do the same. I was stuck in a toxic relationship hiding my lesbian identity and conforming to ideologies that did not align with my values. Then one day I was pushed to the edge and started making changes. This book is full of short anecdotes that offer perspectives outside of the Southern way of doing things. It also shows the reader a simple self-help tool that the author used to push herself into action. Finances relationships raising teenagers being creative dealing with death going through divorce being disowned and finally finding happiness are all covered in this short yet insightful read.Relationships-Sometimes we can't see the forest for all the trees. Isn't that a saying? Well what I mean is that when you're in a situation it is often difficult to see what is really happening. That was my marriage. I would tell myself it wasn't that bad although I had a pretty good hunch I was being cheated on and I was not respected at all. I would justify staying because of kids finances etc. but what I didn't realize is that staying was having negative effects on me my kids and my finances. I couldn't see that until I got out of it. I consider myself lucky for getting out and I want to show others that it is possible. Finances-I was bogged down in debt and I couldn't see any way out of it. I lost my full-time position and was only getting $54 per month in child support for two kids. I had been left with credit cards from my marriage and my savings account was bare. This forced me to start thinking differently about what is important to me and how to align my finances with that rather than doing what society had always told me. LGBT-When I came out the first time I went back in the closet for 13 years because my mother threatened to take my children away and in Alabama in 2002 that was very much a possibility. When I came out the second time she disowned me and turned most of my family against me. This isn't easy even as an adult but I was at the point where the only choice I was making was to be true to myself and be happy. This isn't selfish in my eyes it's self-care. Many more issues are addressed but overall I wrote this book to share my story in hopes that someone else who may be where I was before will be inspired to practice the self-care that I did and make changes for the better. Women are especially in danger of being stuck in bad situations not only because of finances and children but also because we are told that we are supposed to be selfless. However being selfless often leads to getting lost in someone else's shadow. It can also lead to sickness. It is better to care for ourselves so that we can care for others. I am a better mom and a better person for making those changes. Most of all I am healthier and happier than I have ever been and I want that for others.

Series: Evolving Through Bullshit (Book 1)

Paperback: 129 pages

Publisher: Julie Still-Rolin; 1 edition (March 11 2018)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 0692962697

ISBN-13: 978-0692962695

Product Dimensions: 6 x 0.3 x 9 inches

Shipping Weight: 9 ounces